Cahooting with the Dead
Let me tell you a (semi) quick story that changed my stance on communicating with my ancestors. A few months ago or maybe a year ago now, I was table tipping with my good friend Phyllis Kenney. I had a particular issue I was asking about and then she went off script, so to speak, and said a gentleman had just popped in and really wanted to connect with me. After some questions, we confirmed it was my mother’s father. What clinched it for me was she said this man is deeply ashamed of what he did in life. She said he is acting very embarrassed. That would be applicable to his life. He was abusive to my grandmother and did not continue a relationship with his children when my grandmother left him. He did something similar with his other children with his second wife. None of his children loved him all that much (except for my mother, who was his first child.) I only met him once when I was maybe 20 years old. He was very friendly to us when we visited and he seemed very interested in us, but we had no further contact after that visit. He died sometime later of stomach cancer. When I was told that he had died, I got an immediate feeling that he really could not stomach what he had done or the way he had been in life. Phyllis confirmed this.
She said he was here because he wanted to apologize and make up for his life. This wasn’t just to say he was sorry – he wanted, and expected me to punish him, in a way. To yell at him. To tell him about all the ways his behavior towards my grandmother, mother and aunt, had affected my life. Phyllis said he wants to understand it and to pay his dues in a way that I had never had the opportunity to express before. He wants to heal. My grandmother (his ex wife) also came in during that reading and said something similar. She wanted to get her comeuppance or due punishment. To heal. Phyllis told me to go into meditation sometime soon and to “give them both hell.” So, I did. A couple weeks later I sat in meditation and yelled at him for everything that I have experienced that resulted from his behavior. I explained how the women are on that side of my family and blamed him. I was able to directly connect those behaviors and experiences to his neglect. To say the experience was cathartic is an understatement. It wasn’t a long meditation but it was effective. I felt exhausted after and I felt a pain and a hole that I hadn’t fully realized I was carrying around.
Phyllis had said that he would take that information and work with it to heal himself. She said that was why both of them were coming to me – they wanted to heal themselves from this life experience. She said this will help you and it will help them.
A couple weeks or so after that meditation, I was at work and I felt that grandfather tapping on my shoulder. He had something he wanted to share. I wish this hadn’t happened at work because it wasn’t a place where I could have an emotional reaction but Spirit does what it wants. So, I took a notebook and wrote down all the words and thoughts that came to me. We are not finished with that conversation, but I took in as much as I could hold. It was mostly him explaining why these people are the way they are and what is really happening behind their interactions with me - from Spirit’s perspective. It was comforting, to a point, and it also made me angry. Like I said, that conversation is not finished. He told me what he saw from his perspective in spirit and it wasn’t making excuses for anyone. It was helpful. He told me a lot about me, as well.
The reason I tell you this story is because this event changed the way I resist working with my ancestral line. It confirmed for me that our ancestors are not in spirit who they were in life. And they do care about us. They do want to connect with us. Even as I write this, I feel an eagerness from them to connect with us.
Last year I shared a monthly program I called Ancestral Magic, which is designed to help us connect with those ancestors. I learned a lot through working in that program. And, now I am bringing a facet of that program to a new event called Cahooting with the Dead.
It will be an evening of learning who is really out there in spirit from our ancestral line and how to connect with them. I will go over the kind of things they can help us with and what information they can share with us. I will share one way of getting to know who you are connecting with and how to talk to them. At the end of the event, we will have a table tipping session where everyone can ask one or two questions of the ancestor they connected with during the prior activities. There will be story telling and sharing. It will be a lot of fun. I hope you will join us.
I do not suggest this particular event for connecting with someone who has very recently passed away. This particular event is best suited for connecting with an ancestor from the way back past. At least 3 or 4 generations back. The reason is you already have a solidified idea of who your mother is/was, or what your grandmother believed when she was alive. This isn’t the type of event for battling or confirming those sorts of preconceived notions - at least not to begin with. If you want to have a session where you speak with a recently passed loved one, I suggest an individual session with Phyllis at another time.
Also, this event is free. All we ask is that you share our work, whether our social media page with your friends, or to interact on our social media pages (sign up for our newsletters, etc.) to boost our visibility as an energy exchange.
This event is also available through Zoom. So, if you are not local to Maine or cannot attend in person, I can send you a Zoom link. The event will take place on June 28th at 5pm EST for anyone attending in person (the event is in Farmingdale, Maine and will begin with a potluck dinner) and 6pm EST for anyone attending via Zoom.